Do Not Be Sad My Sisters

ASSALAMUALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH

All the praises and thanks be to Allah. We praise Him and seek His help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils inside us, and from the evils we commit. Those whom Allah guides are not misled by others, and those who are misled by Allah have no other to guide them. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, Alone without a partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Do not be sad, O sister, as sadness is not a cure for distresses. Do not lose hope as despair troubles the disposition while hope has loomed from every quarter, rather, from everywhere.

Do not be sad, O sister, as affliction is a kind of purification [through trial] and the calamity is a test from Allah. In addition, misfortune is an exam and at the time of exam, man is either honored or humiliated.

What may be the reason for your sadness?

If it is because of an illness, it is good for you and you will recover. The Messenger of Allah, prayers and peace of Allah be upon him, has said, «If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials» [Al-Bukhari]

And Allah Exalted and Glorified says, {"And when I am ill, it is He who cures me.} [Surat Ash-Shu'arâ': 80]

If your sadness is because of a sin or an act of disobedience which you have committed, meditate on the words of your Lord who is more merciful to you than yourself.

He says, {Say, "O ‘Ibâdî (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allâh, verily, Allâh forgives all sins. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.} [Surat Az-Zumar: 53]

If your sadness is due to oppression directed towards you by a husband, a relative or another one, Allah has promised you His help and threatened your oppressor by disappointment and humiliation.

Allah Almighty says, {And Allâh likes not the Zâlimûn (polytheists and wrong-doers).} [Surat Al-'Imrân: 140]

If your sadness is due to poverty and privation, be patient and rejoice as Allah Almighty says, {And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sâbirûn (the patient).} [Surat Al-Baqarah: 155]

If your sadness is due to having few or no children, you should know that you are not the first one to be deprived from children and you are not responsible for creating them.

Allah Almighty says, {To Allâh belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills. [49]. Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren whom He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things.} [Surat Ash-Shûra: 49-50]

Are you the one who willed to be barren? Or is it Allah Who has made you like that by His will? Do you have the right to reject the wisdom of Allah and His will? Does your husband or any other one have the right to blame you for that matter? If he did so, he would be rejecting the will of Allah not you. In addition, he would be challenging the judgment of Allah and adjusting to His decision.

So what is the reason of sadness while to Him every matter is returned?
Do not be sad, O sister, no matter what your affliction is. Remember that what happens to you is a fate and that even if night is long, dawn will inevitably come.

My Muslim sister, I have brought for you some enlightening words to drive your distresses away. These words are the ultimate lessons of life, which is taken from the Prophetic guidance in order to lighten your way and enable you, Allah willing, to get rid of your sadness.

Firstly, be the daughter of the present [forget the past]

What has passed is over, what you wish for is unseen;
So, make use of the present, which you live.

Better and more beautiful than the previous poetic verses are the words of ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him and his father. He said, «If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death.» [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

Forget the past no matter what its condition might be. Forget it and forget its sadness and grief. Remembering the past does not help you to cure the pains. On the contrary, it troubles your day and increases your distresses. You should imagine all the time that you live between two eras,

The first: is the past and it is surely over with all its delightful and painful memories. Thus, the past does not exist in reality as it passed and it does simply exist in your mind only. As it does not exist, the past does not deserve to be included in your distresses because it passed and ended, it is over.

The second: is the future and it is unseen and unknown. Therefore, it cannot be ruled by any kind of thought or any guesses of mind. On the contrary, it is unseen, which is mysterious and secret that no one can realize its essence. Allah says, {Say, "None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allâh, nor can they perceive when they shall be resurrected."} [Surat An-Naml: 65]

Thus, the past is nothingness and the future is unknown.

Do not break your heart by sad memories that have passed, and do not forecast the worst that has not happened yet. Just live the present, second per second, hour per hour, and day per day.

Overlook and forget all the events of the past. Wipe out the traces of distresses and sadness. Do not pay attention to what will happen tomorrow. Be optimistic by the happy news and do not pass a situation in life without meditating on it.

Meditate on how the Prophet, prayers and peace of Allah be upon him, has sought refuge in Allah from worries and grief. He has said, «O Allah! I seek refuge with You from distress and sorrow, from helplessness and laziness, from miserliness and cowardice, from being heavily in debt, and from being overcome by men» [Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Sorrow is usually for the past unattainable matters, while distress is due to fear of future and being pessimistic towards it.

My Muslim sister! Enjoy the present moment of your life. Keep yourself busy with good deeds and occupy its moments by righteousness and reforming others. Make use of your time by performing prayers, remembering Allah, reciting the Noble Quran, acquiring knowledge, and doing favors for the sake of Allah so that you would find the reward on the Day of Judgment. Allah says, {On the Day when every person will be confronted with all the good he has done, and all the evil he has done, he will wish that there were a great distance between him and his evil.} [Surat A-'Imrân: 30]

Dear sister, when you are in complete distress, divert your main concern towards heavens. The Prophet, prayers and peace of Allah be upon him, has said, «Whoever makes his worries about just one thing - the Appointed Day [of Resurrection] - then Allah will suffice him from the rest of his worries. And whoever has his worries branching off from the affairs of this World, and then Allah will not care in which valley he dies» [Sahîh Al-Jâmi': 6189]

Do not be sad, as your livelihood and fate are predestined. In addition, the matters of this worldly life do not deserve all these worries because all of them surely will come to an end. Allah says, {And the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment.} [Surat Al-Hadîd: 20]

If you are in troubles, resort to Allah and utter the following supplications, (Allah, O Allah is my Lord and I do not associate with Him anyone), (O Ever Living, O Sustainer, by Your mercy I seek help) and (My Lord! Indeed, I am overpowered, so help). These are Islamic supplications by which sins are forgiven, problems are solved, obstacles are cleared, and hardships are eased.

Seek tranquility through frequently seeking forgiveness. Seek forgiveness sincerely once, twice, hundred, two hundred and thousand times. Do not limit seeking forgiveness

Seek tranquility through frequently seeking forgiveness. Seek forgiveness sincerely once, twice, hundred, two hundred and a thousand times. Do not limit seeking forgiveness to a certain number, and feel the sweetness of seeking forgiveness and turning to Allah in repentance. Allah says, {Truly, Allâh loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves (by taking a bath and cleaning and washing thoroughly their private parts, bodies, for their prayers).} [Surat Al-Baqarah: 222]

Seek tranquility through the remembrance of Allah by glorifying Him (saying: subhân-allâh), by saying that there is no god but Allah (lâ ilâha illa allâh), by asking Allah to send His Salât (Graces, Honors, Blessings, Mercy) upon Prophet Muhammad, prayers and peace of Allah be upon him, and by reciting the Noble Quran. Allah says, {verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest} [Surat Ar-Ra'd: 28]

Do not be sad and hasten to Allah by supplicating Him. Do not be weak as the Prophet, prayers and peace of Allah be upon him, has said, «The most unable person is the one who is unable to pray (invoke, supplicate, ask Allah)» [Authenticated by Al Albani]

The darkness will fade away and the distress will vanish. The smile will be back; so wait for it with patience. Call it through supplication and remembrance. Have good trust in Allah, and He will be as you think He is.

Love you for the sake of Allah my sisters in Islam =D

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