“When Nikahs become expensive, Zina becomes cheap, so keep weddings as simple and affordable as possible”

“When Nikahs become expensive, Zina becomes cheap, so keep weddings as simple and affordable as possible”

Nikkahs are defined as marriage contract or wedding day for most. These days weddings are very expensive and extravagant. Truth be told some couples at times may not be able to afford lavish weddings but have to find ways to in order to make their families and friend happy - it’s a cultural thing. Zina is defined as unlawful sexual intercourse. So when weddings become too hard to afford and plan, at times some couples fall into sinning and it becomes a toxic situation all around.

"Make Marriage easy and Zina Difficult"

Today we are living in society where marriage has became difficult and it is getting more and more difficult. Becuase of this new generation is falling into other side and that is "Zina".

"And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way." (Sura Al-Israa # 17 ayah # 32)

"O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from God, but do (precisely) what they are commanded. [Holy Quran: Tahrim 66: 6]

Keep marriage as simple as possible and less expensive.

Avoid Haram in the marriage.( Photography, video, music and dancing)

Dowry - Father of the girl pays to boy and his family - which may include all kinds of material given in the name of gift.- TV, Car, bike, home, gold what ever you name and it is not islamic.Stop it ....... it is not Islamic and Haram

Bidda - Haldi and other local rituals before and after marriage. Dancing by girls. Stop it ....... it is not Islamic

Material given to parents of boy and girl in the name of gift ( cloth, money etc).Stop it ....... it is not Islamic

Remember there is no place for all this in Islam, all this will take you to the fire of hell. This is already spoilling our society and we all answerable to our Allah for our deeds.

And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqûn" Those will be rewarded with the highest place (in Paradise) because of their patience. Therein they shall be met with greetings and the word of peace and respect. Quran 25:74

Marriages in Islam are considered to be a very important Sunnah. But have we ever thought why it is getting so difficult to get married these days. When I thought of this topic, I recalled many people around me who are willing to get married but are not able to.

Problems are many… It is difficult to find the right partner. Even if they find a person with all “characteristics” they are looking for, caste system makes it more difficult.
But the issue which I want to raise is the extravagances done in marriages these days. For a middle-class man with minimal earning, it is the most difficult task to get their daughters and sons married. They start earning and collecting money at the time their daughters are born. The expenses done in different customs and rituals are so huge that it becomes unbearable. And it applies to both, the bride and bridegroom’s side.
Dear brothers & sisters, be careful of the fact . we often have very high expectations or too high demand in marriage which make it delayed and expensive which is very harmful for us, our family and our society too . we should rather remember the hadeeths for choosing the life partner and act accordingly for our betterment.

Prophet (saw) said:

“The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.”

(al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih)

“The worst food is that of a wedding banquet (walima) to which only the rich are invited whilst the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Messenger (Allah bless him & give him peace).”

(Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4882)

We should be careful to not act as the disbelievers do regarding their mixing of men and women, wearing tuxedos and white wedding gowns, exchanging rings, kissing in public, etc. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, "Whoever resembles a people is one of them. "

(Narrated by Abu Dawood, 3512; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 2691)

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